Parent Pleasers become People Pleasers — How to overcome this common Childhood Wound.
“I hate that I’m unable to say no.”
“I hate that I’m unable to stick up for myself. How did I become this way?”
These are thoughts that cross the minds of the people pleasers frequently. People pleasers are experts at accommodating other people’s needs but often putting themselves last. As long as others are happy, people pleasers are happy — or are we?
These are some of the traits most people pleasers have in common:
>>A strong need for control.
>> Needing to be perfect.
>> Changing ourselves so that we blend into the group.
>> Feeling completely burned out from taking care of others.
So let’s get one thing straight:
We are not born as people pleasers. We don’t just pop out of the womb and then God says, “This one is going to be a people pleaser.”
All jokes aside, we learn what we see. The root of people-pleasing comes from the early stages of life; by this, I mean the way we were cared for, treated, and loved by our parents.
We all come into the world wanting love and nurturing.
