5 Things Narcissists Say and What They Really Mean

Nicole Baptista
3 min readJan 6, 2021
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If you’ve ever dealt with a narcissist you’ll know their actions and words can have you doubting yourself and wondering if you’re just going crazy.

Chances are, you’re not going crazy. Narcissists are expert manipulators and belittle their partners in order to give themselves a sense of self-importance. They intentionally distort your reality through their words so that they have the upper hand in all situations.

Here are a few common phrases narcissists use, and what they actually mean.

1. You’re Too Sensitive/ You’re Overreacting

Translation: “I’m gaslighting you. I’m invalidating your feelings and at the same time shaming you for feeling the way you do.

Even though you’ve had an entirely reasonable response to my crappy words/ actions, I’m going to make you second guess yourself. You’re starting to catch on to my abusive behaviour and I really don’t like that.”

2. I’m Sorry You Feel That Way

Translation: “I’m not sorry at all. But I’m going to pretend that I care so that you can forgive me and I can make the same mistakes all over again. I also refuse to take the blame for anything.”



Nicole Baptista

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