4 Reasons You Keep Attracting Narcissists (And How to Stop the Cycle)

Nicole Baptista
4 min readJul 22, 2020

The red flags were there. But you fell in the same trap again, didn’t you?

Charming, attentive, loving. Or so they seemed at first. Only to turn out manipulative, punishing, and cold.


People who tend to attract these kinds of partners often ask themselves why they are narcissist- magnets.

More importantly, they are keen on finding ways to stop the pattern from repeating itself.

Being in a relationship with a narcissist can leave a person emotionally wrecked. They may also live in fear of the same thing happening again with a new partner.

According to the Recovery Village, a treatment service centre, 1 in 200 people have a narcissistic personality disorder. 75% of these people are men.

There are very few things that are more destructive than being in a relationship with a narcissist.

Below are a few reasons why you may be perfect narcissist “bait”, and some tips on how to stop the cycle.

Because you can.

1. You Are an Empath

As an Empath, you are nurturing, good-hearted, and have a lot to give.

In fact, you are probably everything a narcissist will never be. This is heaven for a narcissist. You have lots of love, care, and, attention to offer. You are a good listener.

It’s exactly what he/she craves: constant flattery and to for you to take care of all their worries.

This helps to fill the empty void inside of them. Yet, this is also when they start to take advantage of you.

TIP: Know that setting boundaries is not rude, it’s essential. You have to know when you are giving too much. Nobody should walk all over you.

The moment you get a gut feeling something isn’t right, listen to it. You as an Empath have an incredible instinct for picking up on weird vibes. Use it.

And then leave. A narcissist will never recognize their flaws or faults, so it is up to you to protect yourself from further harm. They will never change (no matter how much you want them to).

Nicole Baptista

Writer I Poet I Language Teacher. Let's talk: Spirituality, education, feminism. Also baby goat obsessed. Www.nicolebeewriter.com Insta: @nicoleandthemoon